Do Doulas Replace Dads?
Doulas are by no means a replacement for Dad. A father's presence and the love that he shares with his family are priceless gifts only he can provide. A doula can actually help dad be involved to the level he feels comfortable with. Many fathers feel anxiety leading up to the birth about the safety of their partner and baby. A doula can relieve a lot of this fear by providing reassurance and informational support to fathers. A doula's presence can be very calming, helping fathers truly enjoy and take part in their baby's arrival.
What Does a Dad-Doula Partnership Look Like?
Early Labour at home
I can stay with mom while you arrange last minute details such as arranging childcare, packing last minute items, filling the gas tank, etc. I will ensure that both of you are eating and drinking, and one of us can make light snacks. As mom's labour progresses, I can suggest massage techniques, positioning, and movement to alleviate pain. You or I can accompany mom to the shower or bath to comfort her.
Arrival at the Hospital
I can prepare the room and ensure all the birthing necessities are present. If deviations from your birth plan are suggested, I will remind you of your birth wishes and perhaps suggest options or alternatives. I can also take photos or video throughout the labour and delivery.
Transition and Pushing Stage
I will encourage you to provide as much of the close physical support during labour as you are comfortable with. Throughout the labour I will be talking mom through each contraction. While I encourage her to push, you'll be able to hold mom's hand or leg and watch your baby's entrance into the world.
After the Baby Arrives
I will typically stay until the baby and mom are stable, and breastfeeding is going well. I can take photos or video of family and baby, and make any phone calls you'd like me to make. Also, I can update waiting family members and in order to provide you with
some quiet time together, if you desire. I will typically stay up to two hours after baby arrives.
